Your teen is heading to college and you’re feeling more than you expected. Here’s what parents actually need to know about this transition, for their kid and for themselves.

It’s one of the hardest moments as a parent: your teen closes the door, says “I’m fine,” and shuts you out completely. You know something’s off, but you’re not sure how to reach them. They used to talk to you, but now? Silence, eye rolls, or tension.

If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and you’re not failing as a parent.